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The Frustrations of a 2 Year Old

Have you ever had something on your mind but can’t find the words to express how you feel or what you are thinking?

Frustrating wasn’t it? Welcome to the mind space of a 2 year old.

At age two, your child is able to comprehend much more than they are able to communicate.

The frustrations of a two year old

Why is it frustrating for your toddler?

Your toddler has ideas, emotions and understandings that can be overwhelming when they are not able to share them. They simply do not have the words or are still learning how to piece their words together to tell the world. This is very frustrating for them and can often end in tears.

How can us parents help?

The key to building vocabulary is talking and in turn, listening. The more us parents talk, the more opportunities we are offering our child to listen and learn the context of the words we are saying.

Repetition makes the words memorable and concretes the definition when used in context.

Play to your child’s interests to keep them engaged in the activity.

Do you have a dinosaur lover? Use dinosaurs in your play!

Do you have a bug lover? Use insects in your play!

Is your little champ obsessed with trains? Use trains in your play!

If they aren’t interested in the activity, your child is likely to lose interest which isn’t going to be of any benefit to them or you.

Insect play idea with homemade Play DoughLearn how to make play dough using a stove top, thermal mixer or good old mixing bowl

Activities That Can Build Vocabulary

Through play, help build your child’s vocabulary so they not only have a better understanding but also will in turn also be able to share their own thoughts.

Add Colours

When you toddler points something out, build on their understanding by repeating that they have said and also mention the colour.

Toddler: “Dog”

Parent: ” Yes, that is a brown dog. A dog says ‘Woof’!”

This will affirm for the child that they are being heard and will open them up to another eight words all used in context. Take it to another level and point out some other ‘brown’ things that they can see to further build their comprehension and vocabulary.

Repetition, repetition, repetition!

Yellow Sensory Play Tray

Add Sensory Element

Sensory play is a brilliant way to open up conversations and build vocabulary for a toddler. Use words to discuss how something feels, sounds, smells and tastes.

Does it feel smooth or rough, hot or cold, heavy or light?

When shaken does it make a loud sound or a quiet sound, is it a deep sound or a higher pitch sound, does the sound echo or does it stop quickly?

Does it have a pleasant smell or a off putting scent? Is it a sweet scent or and earthy smell?

Does it taste sweet or sour? Can you taste the flavour on the front of your tongue or the back of your tongue?

Is it oozy or dry?

When pressed upon, does it flex or snap?

Use different textures, colours and temperatures in your sensory play to help open up these conversations and build your toddlers vocabulary.

River Rock Sensory Play

Check out these taste safe sensory play mediums that would be perfect for your toddler!

Do you have a sensory avoider? Why not put the mediums into a ziplock bag?

Check out our Discovery Bags!

They are great for messy free sensory play or for children who find messy sensory play overwhelming.

Mess Free Sensory Discovery Bags for toddlersLearn how to make your Discovery Bag!

Add Emotions

Two year olds feel big emotions for such tiny people. They certainly can’t be expected to control them at this age however a parent can help their toddler understand what emotions they are feeling and begin to build a foundation on how to act on them.

When they are experiencing an emotion, let them know the word and suggest a way to express it.

Is your toddler laughing? Tell them they are really happy or that they find something so funny that their joy is bursting out of them!

Are they feeling sad? Let them know that they are feeling sad and that they can come to you for a cuddle so you can help them get through it.

Can you see your toddler getting irritated? Let them know that you can see they are being bothered and suggest to them a way to diffuse the situation. Their blocks might not be stacking on a carpeted surface so let them know that it is frustrating the blocks won’t stack and suggest to work together to fix the problem.

Ask them how they think their favourite character might be feeling in their bedtime story or simply bring their attention to the illustrations. Explain to your child very basically how to read which emotion the character is showing then take a turn making the same face for a giggle.

Learning emotions activity

Sing Songs

Nursery rhymes and poems are full of rhyming words and repetition.

Along with the musical tone and fun had dancing around the room while singing them, songs are often easily remembered by our two year olds.

Think old school ‘Twinkle, Twinkle”, “Row, Row, Row Your Boat”, “Humpty Dumpty” and “Old MacDonald”.

Team the songs up with some fun actions and you will have a fun activity that is building their vocabulary, motor skills and cherishable childhood memories all at once!

Importance of Reading

One of the most influential ways of teaching your toddler their words and putting them into context is by reading books.

Has your child asked to read “Where is the Green Sheep?” for the 31335th time for the day? As pain staking as it is, do it!

Repetition, repetition, repetition!

Books open up new words that are outside of our default ones that us parents will find ourselves using day in day out.

Choose books that are appropriate to your child’s age with supporting illustrations to further help build comprehension.

The story need not come to an end on the last page. Upon finding that green sheep fast asleep why not ask your toddler where he would fall asleep if they were a green sheep?

Story Tray Harry and the Bucketful of Dinosaurs

What to do while your toddler is struggling

More often than not us parents can at times, have a bit of an understanding of what our toddlers are trying to say before they have finished saying it ( and there are plenty of times when we are asking the same questions over and over as we don’t have a clue what they want and in fairness they probably don’t know either!).

At times like this, let them finish. Reward their persistence by letting them finish. Once they are done, repeat it in a more suitable way if need be.

Toddler: “Dropped car. Gone”

Parent: “Did you drop your car and now can’t find it?”

Toddler: “Eat apple”

Parent: “May I please have an apple to eat?”

If your child mispronounces a word or uses a made up word to refer to something, just simply repeat it in the correct way (I apologise to any grown ups that I still do this too… my bad!)

My Miss 22m will often refer to a dinosaur as a roar. Yes, dinosaurs do roar however they are not called roars. They are dinosaurs.

Miss 22m: “Me, roar play?”

Me: “Can we please play with the dinosaurs?”

There is no need to go into it more than that. Sometimes they will repeat it, others they won’t. They are listening though. One day, the penny will drop and a roar will go back to being a sound made by her beloved triceratops rather than the animals themselves.

What to do if you are concerned?

If you are concerned about your two year olds speech, comprehension, hearing or any other aspect of their development, have a chat with your Child Health Nurse or GP.

Be kinder to yourself than laying awake at night for months on end stressing and wondering ‘what if?’.

Us parents know our children best and if it turns out your child is within the expected development range, you will have peace of mind. If not, there is so much to be gained through early intervention during the early years of childhood. You will have access to and support from specialists to help you guide your child.

Two year olds will drive you crazy but by golly they do grow up so quickly. Each tantrum will soon be a distant memory but the love and support you can imprint on them at this age through these troubled times will last a lifetime.

Dani D x

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33 Comments

  1. Themamicam says:

    Love how well you explain all of this, repetition repetition repetition! That’s definitely the key!

    1. Thank you! Yes, repetition is the way! Even as adults repetition is so helpful to remember things or forge new habits

  2. healingoils2014 says:

    Looking at things from a 2-year-olds perspective, it makes sense why they could be frustrated. Thanks for the great explanation.

    1. You’re welcome! Thanks for your kind words.

  3. Melanie Frost says:

    These are excellent tips. I wish I had read this when my son was a toddler. He didn’t say his first word until he was 26 months after being in speech therapy. It was frustrating for all of us.

    1. I take my hat of to parents of non verbal children. It’s hard enough to meet their needs when they are learning to talk let alone not being able to communicate verbally at all. I’m glad to hear he responded to his therapy. It must have been such a relief for the whole family.

  4. Miia Salakka says:

    Helpful thoughts! I don’t have children and I always feel like I don’t understand babies, so this was eye-opening for all the possibilities to do with them.

    1. Thank you for your kind words. Children certainly are interesting little creatures. Even when you think you understand them, they go and do something to remind you that parenting is forever a guessing game haha

  5. This is such a great post and a helpful guide to mommies out there. Instead of letting your child play with gadget and online games the whole day, why not let him do fun and engaging activities right? I know some parents who are struggling in this area. They don’t know what activities appropriate for their children. I have a friend, her son is already 6 years old but he has a difficultt in speaking. The finding is too much exposure on gadgets! Thank you for sharing this. This is a very helpful post.

    1. Parenting is tough as it is let alone with all the technology that is available today. It is challenging to find a healthy balance (to be honest, I have gone’ too hard basket’ and my two younger children have very limited access to technology for this reason). One of the reasons I created this platform was to inspire meaningful play especially during early childhood.

      Thank you for your kind words and I wish your friends son all the best on their road to finding his words x

  6. Sensory relief can be major. I know a teacher for older kids who uses this type of thing to engage her students and it works beautifully.

    1. I agree entirely. We are a ‘sensory’ house with seekers and avoiders. Understanding the child’s needs and working with them is so beneficial for everyone involved.

  7. As a new parent, I do love reading about tips on raising a child. I love the wealth of knowledge included in this post.

    1. Congratulations on becoming a parent and welcome to the crazy! Hehe Thank you for your kind words. Our squishy delights certainly don’t come with an instruction manual so I hope this can offer some insight for parents to consider when making choices for their families x

  8. As a child therapist, I completely agree with all of the suggestions you listed. These are all great ways to engage a child or help redirect them when they’re frustrated.

    1. Thank you for your kind words. Growing up is tricky business. Anything we can do to help them along their journey.

  9. You’re so right!Toddlers can be full of emotions but it is unfortunate when a parent can’t seem to understand them. Anyway, my baby cousin is so good at displaying facial expressions that help us understand her emotions.

    1. It really is frustrating, for child and parents! Facial expressions certainly can be very useful! Thank you for stopping by!

  10. Facial expression is definitely the key to identifying a child’s frustration. Absolutely agree.

    1. Having fun while practising different facial expressions is a great way to teach your child how to read them too! Thanks for dropping by!

  11. I can’t relate yet to this but crossing fingers that soon I will. From your post, it is interesting to learn and also see these as a learning article to of what to expect.

    1. One little side line tip… when it comes to children, always expect the unexpected. Haha I hope you get the news you have been waiting for soon… fingers crossed for you too!

  12. GladysNava says:

    Such a wonderful post to read and it really helps! I have a kid and he is turning to 2 years old. I am really glad to know all that from you.

  13. Waren Jean Go says:

    This reminds me of my 2 year old cousin who throws tantrums because he cannot express himself then my aunt would tell him to say it, but I know he is struggling so we would just ask him to point it if he cannot say it. It’s hard for them too.

  14. Casey says:

    We all have bad days, no different for a two-year-old kid. They are still young and their brain is still not fully develop and am sure they are lack of patience too.

    1. Yes for sure! I feel it is important to teach them to recognise their emotions and appropriate actions. So far they have spent their lives having their needs met straight away… patience is a life lesson in itself (that I need to learn more about myself even as an adult!)

  15. swathiiyer says:

    I love this post, I didn’t know this when my kids are around 2 year old, Now they are grown 6 and 9 now.

    1. Children certainly are fascinating creatures aren’t they?

  16. I love your post thanks for sharing! Although my kids are grown, they have kids now and it’s interesting to see how difficult it is for them to communicate their feelings sometimes but great to see them work through it in their own unique ways.

    1. Your welcome! It is difficult to watch them isn’t it? And so rewarding watching them figure life out one step at a time… it’s just another stepping stone to jump along over. Thanks for dropping by!

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  18. I’m realizing that my mother was an absolute saint for putting up with me at that age!

  19. I’m really happy you included sensory play. Sensory plays is among the biggest influences on child development when it comes to learning. Especially at a young age.

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