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What Could Be More Important Than Teaching Our Toddlers To Share

“Sharing is caring”

Yes, this is true however it is also a learned skill that our toddlers need to develop over time.

Developmentally an average child should not be expected to share, understanding what it truly means until they are pre-school age. Rather than focusing on sharing, encourage your child to take turns.

Whats the difference?

To share is to part or portion an amount of something which is to then be divided among another/s.

To take turns is to part with or do something that comes successively to each of a number of people.

To share, the opportunity may not come back. The task is very open ended in its outcome and would leave a lot unanswered for a young child. Turn taking offers the security and knowing that the opportunity will return to the child.

To take turns is an important skill to enable a child to build and keep healthy relationships throughout their life. It is also paramount for speech development. I am confident in saying that I am sure you know first hand how frustrating it would be to be having a conversation with someone and they either don’t listen or partake in the communication retrospectively!

One of the first “turn taking” experiences for a baby is a game of “Peek a Boo”. Their parent or sibling covers their eyes with their hands, baby waits in anticipation for their beloved family members return and then BOO! Babies response is often a smile, coo or giggle which is amongst their first means of communication. Baby entered into the exchange of communication and waiting their turn in responding.

Passing toys backwards and forwards is another great avenue to develop the skill of turn taking. Explain to your baby what you are doing too so they can have a better understanding of the processes they are putting in place to reach the desired outcome.

I am giving you teddy so that you may have a turn.”

Thank you for passing teddy to me so that I may have a turn too. That makes me feel happy.”

A parent or carer recognising the process is only going to concrete the purpose of the task for the child and reflecting how their actions make you feel will assist the child understand a healthy range of emotions as they mature.

Toys with a clear beginning, middle and end are great visual aids to assist with turn taking.

A hammering toy is a great toy that has a clear beginning middle and end to its play. Once all pegs have been levelled, the child can flip it over and pass the hammer along to their little friend so that they may have a turn too.

Le Toy Van Petilou Hammering Mr Mushroom

Puzzles can be a useful tool to encourage turn taking. Either a child can complete the entire puzzle before offering to their friend or they could take turns placing alternate pieces.

Hape Chunky ABC Puzzle

Sharing is caring but so is turn taking!

Dani D x

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28 thoughts on “What Could Be More Important Than Teaching Our Toddlers To Share”

  1. Great post! We love puzzles! We are working on our sharing…my daughter is in preschool and i’ve been noticing some funky behavior! HA

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  2. This is such a smart post! I never thought of taking turns as a way to lead to sharing. It makes so much sense. I don’t have children of my own, so I have never had to teach this incredibly important life skill!

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  3. You have great parenting skill to share here and all written into so details. I like the passing toys backwards and forwards as it is really a great avenue to develop the skill of turn taking. Make them know they need to wait.

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  4. Toddlers definitely need to learn early the art of sharing. The younger you learn the better they will turn out to be sharing children and adults.

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  5. This is a great piece! We are expecting our first little one next Spring, so I’m sure I’ll be reading up on this again! It’s also interesting because I teach dance to young children. You can really see the difference between 3, 4, and 5-year-olds who have different experiences in “turn taking”.

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  6. Wow, this is really great advice! Now that I’ve got two littles underfoot I will definitely be needing to teach them a thing or two about sharing and taking turns. Thank you.

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  7. Oh the sharing lesson is always a hard one. They all eventually get it fortunately. There are a lot of tears that come with that lesson though

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  8. I definitely agree sharing is caring. We try to teach our daughter to think of others before she thinks about herself and it is okay sometimes to be last and you don’t always have to be first. Lessons that will help them grow to be outstanding people when they are adults.

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  9. What a great parenting post! Teaching children to share is important when it’s developmentally appropriate for their age. My daughters are three and nine and everyday my priority is to teach them the importance of kind words.

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    1. Thank you! Wow, three and nine… I imagined mornings would be quite interesting at your place if they are anything like mine at similar age. My Miss 4 and Mr 10 are regularly being reminded to speak nicely to each other. I might change my approach to reflect yours a little. Your girls are very lucky to have such an awesome mumma!

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  10. I enjoyed reading this, its great for parents to hear this. I am not a parent myself but I understand how through play a child can learn a lot and improve developmentally. Especially when its child-led. Thank u for sharing!

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